Valerie Khoo


This is the personal blog of Valerie Khoo – artist, author and podcaster. Valerie is passionate about exploring the worlds of creativity and business. She is co-host of the popular podcasts ‘So you want to be a writer’ and ‘So you want to be a photographer’. Valerie is a mentor to artists, writers and business owners on how they can turn their passions into thriving professional practices. She is author of ‘Power Stories: The 8 Stories You MUST Tell to Build an Epic Business’. Valerie is also CEO of the Australian Writers’ Centre, one of the world’s leading centres for writing courses.

Am I on the wrong side of 40 FEATURE

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  1. Hector McSquawky

    I am definitely on the right side of forty 🙂

    1. valeriekhoo

      Hector: So am I!

  2. Bruno Polito

    This is so true, Valerie. The words you choose do have power and meaning. More so, they can appear physically innocuous, while actually being psychologically oppressive.
    The wrong side of 40 (vocationally challenged / outcast)
    My other half (less that whole)
    The little woman (derogatory / belittling)
    To fall pregnant ( a la “fall from grace” a loss of status, respect, or prestige)

    1. valeriekhoo

      Another one I can’t stand: … “The ball and chain”

  3. Adam Franklin

    I totally agree Valerie. Well selected words are very important because they reflect what you believe in and where you are going. I love this quote from Ghandi:

    “Your beliefs become your thoughts,
    Your thoughts become your words,
    Your words become your actions,
    Your actions become your habits,
    Your habits become your values,
    Your values become your destiny.”

    1. valeriekhoo

      Love this quote Adam. Am sticking it up on the wall here.

    2. Jayanta Sarma

      The correct quote from M. K. Gandhi (not Ghandi) is –

      Watch your thoughts; they become your words.
      Watch your words; they become your action.
      Watch your action; they become your habits.
      Watch your habits for they become your character.
      Watch your character; it becomes your destiny.

  4. Shaggygirlrox

    If I’m on the wrong side of 40 then I’m happy to be wrong!

    1. valeriekhoo

      I’ll admit: I’m loving it. For me, so many insecurities or concerns just don’t matter any more.

  5. CaAtherine Meredith

    I definitely think I’m on the right side of 50 – and I say this as the celebration of my 52nd birthday approaches. If it’s the wrong side, then I’m deliriously happy to be there!

    1. valeriekhoo

      Great place to be! You couldn’t actually PAY me to go through the angst of my 20s again. I’m loving the confidence that comes with experience 🙂

  6. debqu

    i feel like the middle aged woman at the wedding in a new dress that nobody notices. i just turned 55 this week . widowed eight months ago,i find eyes slide right off me these days.invisible woman thats me. what is it about getting older that scar