Valerie Khoo


This is the personal blog of Valerie Khoo – artist, author and podcaster. Valerie is passionate about exploring the worlds of creativity and business. She is co-host of the popular podcasts ‘So you want to be a writer’ and ‘So you want to be a photographer’. Valerie is a mentor to artists, writers and business owners on how they can turn their passions into thriving professional practices. She is author of ‘Power Stories: The 8 Stories You MUST Tell to Build an Epic Business’. Valerie is also CEO of the Australian Writers’ Centre, one of the world’s leading centres for writing courses.


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  1. Simonne

    What does mean if you have a snake?

    1. Valerie Khoo

      Ummmmm …. I’m not entirely sure how to reply to that Simonne!

  2. Shaggy

    I too have a cat. She’s beautiful (everyone says so). I used to have two and was single so yes I guess I qualified as crazy cat lady – according to some. I, too, have seen people put off so much in their life waiting for the man of their dreams. Some are still waiting. Some aren’t but their lives aren’t so dreamy. Some got the full package – more power to them (but dont think they never have problems either). If you wait for everything to be perfect, you’ll never do or having anything. I did not wait to buy property. I did get caught in the “everyone’s at a different stage than me so there’s no one to travel with” rut for a long time but I got over that as well. A work friend and I recently went on a trip and we had an absolute ball (though I do recommend you pick your travel partner carefully). Our group had two girls who were each travelling on their own. My best friend did the same a couple of years ago. Seriously. If you want to do or have stuff in your life JUST GO FOR IT. If you do meet Mr Right, you’ll really be Miss Interesting.

    1. Valerie Khoo

      I SO agree Sharon. If I guy is going to be intimidated because you go for the things you want in life then that’s so not the guy you want!

  3. Denise Duffield-Thomas

    Your cat is TOTALLY beautiful!

    1. Valerie Khoo

      Thanks Denise. I think, secretly, Rex just loves the attention!

  4. Tracey Sharah6

    I’ve always have had cats and the relationship and kids :so does this mean people wonder why I have cats if I also have all the other? Great article Valerie I wish my single ladies clients realise they can have the property and the travel and the cats without a partner

    1. Valerie Khoo

      I think that the general (though misguided) consensus is that if you have the cats, the spouse and the kids, then you have “a family”. But if you’re a single woman with a cat, you’re taking the first step to becoming a “crazy cat lady”. So wrong!

  5. Anne

    Great article Valerie. The headline almost got me to bite, however thankfully your voice of reason prevailed in the end!

    1. Valerie Khoo

      Glad you enjoyed it Anne. Of course, my ulterior motive was to be able to post a photo of my cat. Just kidding …

  6. Diane Azzopardi

    I don’t think you have to be single to be a crazy cat lady. In some relationships a joint pet is the first stage of commitment after moving in together.

    1. Valerie Khoo

      Very true. I once knew a lady with her own human family …. and 26 cats … all living under the same roof!

  7. SC

    I’m single on and off, and have found some of my boyfriends jealous that I’m more successful than them. It’s their issue and explains why i’m currently single. Got to stop choosing boys like that!

    1. Valerie Khoo

      Time to rewrite the checklist! 🙂

  8. Annalie Killian

    dear Valerie, maybe I never found everlasting love because my Zulu nickname since age 3 in Africa was Madikatz ( mother of all cats) ! Luckily these days I have so embraced my single life that I’m at risk of not allowing anyone in! but I thought your post was very interesting and thought provoking as I recognise stages of my life in those observations, and see so many women around me in exactly that trap! I’m going to share this far and wide!

    1. Valerie Khoo

      Thanks Annalie. I love your Zulu nickname!